{"id":505,"date":"2025-11-21T22:18:12","date_gmt":"2025-11-21T21:18:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/blog\/?p=505"},"modified":"2026-02-12T18:34:35","modified_gmt":"2026-02-12T17:34:35","slug":"le-deni-apres-ladultere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/blog\/le-deni-apres-ladultere\/","title":{"rendered":"Le d\u00e9ni"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Le d\u00e9ni apr\u00e8s l\u2019adult\u00e8re : un m\u00e9canisme de survie qui peut devenir un pi\u00e8ge<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9464748df2ca5b90994e755063f27b40\">La d\u00e9couverte de l\u2019infid\u00e9lit\u00e9 agit souvent comme un choc traumatique : le sol se d\u00e9robe, les rep\u00e8res explosent, l\u2019identit\u00e9 conjugale et personnelle vacille. De nombreux cliniciens d\u00e9crivent ce moment comme un v\u00e9ritable \u00ab tremblement de terre psychique \u00bb pour la personne tromp\u00e9e.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wepsee.com\/fr\/wikipsee\/la-decouverte-d-une-infidelite\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Wepsee<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Face \u00e0 cette violence, beaucoup de victimes d\u2019adult\u00e8re passent par une phase de d\u00e9ni. Ce n\u2019est ni de la na\u00efvet\u00e9, ni de la b\u00eatise : c\u2019est d\u2019abord un m\u00e9canisme de d\u00e9fense du psychisme pour tenir debout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Qu\u2019est-ce que le d\u00e9ni ?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-secondary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6c87c5d84da42c768b68a3c8fd4e90f2\">En psychanalyse, le d\u00e9ni d\u00e9signe le fait de refuser inconsciemment une r\u00e9alit\u00e9 v\u00e9cue comme insupportable. Le sujet per\u00e7oit bien les \u00e9l\u00e9ments de r\u00e9alit\u00e9 (faits, signes, preuves), mais il ne parvient pas \u00e0 les int\u00e9grer comme vrais, car cela serait trop douloureux.<a href=\"https:\/\/fr.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/D%C3%A9ni_%28psychanalyse%29\">Wikip\u00e9dia+1<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dans le cadre de l\u2019adult\u00e8re, le d\u00e9ni peut porter sur :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>la r\u00e9alit\u00e9 de la tromperie (\u00ab ce n\u2019est pas possible \u00bb, \u00ab il\/elle ne me ferait jamais \u00e7a \u00bb) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>la gravit\u00e9 de ce qui s\u2019est pass\u00e9 (\u00ab ce n\u2019\u00e9tait qu\u2019une aventure \u00bb, \u00ab \u00e7a ne compte pas \u00bb) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>ou encore sur l\u2019impact sur soi (\u00ab je vais encaisser \u00bb, \u00ab je suis assez fort(e) pour passer au-dessus \u00bb).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Sur le forum SOS Cocu, on retrouve fr\u00e9quemment des formulations comme :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9cf33dcb999464ed53a3c0a5cc920f1d\">\u00ab Je ne me r\u00e9sous pas \u00e0 y croire. Je n\u2019y parviens pas. Je suis dans le d\u00e9ni total. J\u2019ai peur de voir mon monde s\u2019effondrer. \u00bb<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=17\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Cette phrase r\u00e9sume bien l\u2019enjeu : admettre la r\u00e9alit\u00e9, c\u2019est risquer de voir tout son monde s\u2019\u00e9crouler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Le d\u00e9ni chez la personne tromp\u00e9e<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9115b0b01fbf4a9abc8547e1522e0904\">Les t\u00e9moignages de la rubrique <em>T\u00e9moignages<\/em> illustrent plusieurs formes typiques de d\u00e9ni apr\u00e8s la d\u00e9couverte de l\u2019adult\u00e8re :<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewforum.php?f=21\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ne pas croire malgr\u00e9 les preuves<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>SMS explicites, objets retrouv\u00e9s, incoh\u00e9rences flagrantes\u2026 mais la personne refuse d\u2019assembler les pi\u00e8ces du puzzle, comme dans ce t\u00e9moignage o\u00f9, malgr\u00e9 des SMS, des pr\u00e9servatifs et des signes r\u00e9p\u00e9t\u00e9s, la victime \u00e9crit :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9123ddcc841a663e3c0d753c37b750eb\">\u00ab Les preuves tombaient les unes apr\u00e8s les autres\u2026 Je ne me r\u00e9sous pas \u00e0 y croire\u2026 Je suis dans le d\u00e9ni total. \u00bb<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=17\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Ici, ce n\u2019est pas l\u2019intelligence qui manque, mais la capacit\u00e9 \u00e0 supporter ce que ces preuves signifient pour la relation, la famille, l\u2019avenir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Minimiser la gravit\u00e9 de ce qui s\u2019est pass\u00e9<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>Certain\u00b7es racontent qu\u2019ils ont longtemps dit :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\u00ab Ce n\u2019est pas si grave \u00bb,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00ab Je suis assez fort(e) pour encaisser \u00bb,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00ab On va tourner la page \u00bb.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-8e50e5b5e84cb0509cc3ac4fc54fc465\">Puis, quelques mois plus tard, la d\u00e9pression ou l\u2019effondrement arrivent, comme cette personne qui explique avoir d\u2019abord travers\u00e9 une p\u00e9riode de \u00ab d\u00e9ni \u00bb de la gravit\u00e9 de ce qu\u2019elle vivait, avant de s\u2019\u00e9crouler. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4185\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu+1<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Le d\u00e9ni peut donc retarder l\u2019effondrement, mais il ne l\u2019emp\u00eache pas, il le repousse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Se nier soi-m\u00eame<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>Une autre forme de d\u00e9ni, plus insidieuse, consiste \u00e0 nier ses propres besoins, sa douleur, sa dignit\u00e9 :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\u00ab D\u2019autres ont v\u00e9cu pire, je n\u2019ai pas \u00e0 me plaindre. \u00bb<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b94bde4e84cc99d9a543cb8af37247eb\">\u00ab Je dois <a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/blog\/une-infidelite-avouee-faut-il-forcement-pardonner\/\">pardonner<\/a>, co\u00fbte que co\u00fbte. \u00bb<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00ab Je ne peux pas tout remettre en question pour \u201c\u00e7a\u201d. \u00bb<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-dc717b1b89572a2c986a558856305a96\">Plusieurs t\u00e9moignages d\u00e9crivent cette phase o\u00f9 la personne s\u2019accroche au couple, au projet familial, en s\u2019oubliant compl\u00e8tement, jusqu\u2019\u00e0 devenir, selon ses propres mots, un \u00ab colosse aux pieds d\u2019argile \u00bb.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=2866\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Le d\u00e9ni chez le partenaire infid\u00e8le<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Le d\u00e9ni ne touche pas que la personne tromp\u00e9e. De nombreux conjoints infid\u00e8les :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>nient les faits malgr\u00e9 des preuves ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>minimisent (\u00ab ce n\u2019\u00e9tait rien \u00bb, \u00ab c\u2019\u00e9tait juste du sexe \u00bb, \u00ab \u00e7a ne compte pas \u00bb) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>ou inversent la culpabilit\u00e9 (\u00ab si j\u2019ai fait \u00e7a, c\u2019est \u00e0 cause de toi \u00bb).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-05e63c4ae2754319411256f6eb5742a6\">Des psychologues soulignent que lorsque le partenaire infid\u00e8le nie <a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/blog\/lecture-interrogative-quand-le-doute-sinstalle\/\">malgr\u00e9 des preuves<\/a>, le d\u00e9ni devient une double trahison : trahison du corps, mais aussi trahison de l\u2019intelligence et de la perception de la victime <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologue.net\/articles\/je-pense-que-monma-partenaire-a-ete-infidele-mais-ilelle-nie-que-dois-je-faire\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">psychologue<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sur le forum, un membre r\u00e9sume :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-2bb722254b222f00ab14178bcfae48ab\">\u00ab Discussion impossible : elle niera tout tant qu\u2019il n\u2019y aura pas de preuve b\u00e9ton. C\u2019est de la manipulation ou du d\u00e9ni\u2026 \u00bb<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4388\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Pour SOS Cocu, il est important de rappeler qu\u2019un <strong>dialogue sinc\u00e8re<\/strong> est impossible tant que le partenaire infid\u00e8le reste dans le d\u00e9ni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Pourquoi le d\u00e9ni est-il si fr\u00e9quent apr\u00e8s une infid\u00e9lit\u00e9 ?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>L\u2019adult\u00e8re touche au c\u0153ur :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>de la confiance (on n\u2019est plus en s\u00e9curit\u00e9) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>de l\u2019estime de soi (sentiment d\u2019\u00eatre moins digne, moins d\u00e9sirable) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-link-color wp-elements-21068cd89d7b032c3f40c7b9291a4851\">de la vision de la vie (couple, famille, projets basculent).<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/blog\/divorce-pour-faute\/\">Divorce<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Dans ce contexte, le d\u00e9ni sert d\u2019abord \u00e0 <strong>prot\u00e9ger<\/strong> :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>il amortit le choc ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>il donne l\u2019illusion de garder le contr\u00f4le ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>il permet de continuer \u00e0 fonctionner (travail, enfants, quotidien) alors que tout br\u00fble \u00e0 l\u2019int\u00e9rieur.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Mais ce qui prot\u00e8ge \u00e0 court terme peut devenir un pi\u00e8ge \u00e0 moyen et long terme, si le d\u00e9ni s\u2019installe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Les cons\u00e9quences du d\u00e9ni prolong\u00e9<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f5c3643eb459c00873aea22ad4b232cd\">Quand le d\u00e9ni dure, plusieurs risques apparaissent, confirm\u00e9s par la clinique et par les t\u00e9moignages du forum :<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wepsee.com\/fr\/wikipsee\/la-decouverte-d-une-infidelite\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Wepsee<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Retard du travail de deuil de la relation telle qu\u2019elle \u00e9tait.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Maintien dans une relation toxique ou non s\u00e9curisante.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hypervigilance : v\u00e9rifier tout, surveiller tout, tout en refusant de poser des d\u00e9cisions claires.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sympt\u00f4mes d\u00e9pressifs (fatigue, perte d\u2019\u00e9lan vital, sentiment de vide).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Somatisation (troubles du sommeil, douleurs, difficult\u00e9s de concentration).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Perte de dignit\u00e9 int\u00e9rieure : accepter ce que l\u2019on juge inacceptable pour soi.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-41f82d60bb82c0f154cff276ad0bc483\">Plusieurs membres d\u00e9crivent ce va-et-vient douloureux entre moments de lucidit\u00e9 et retours au d\u00e9ni, avec cette impression : \u00ab Je vois clair\u2026 puis je referme les yeux parce que c\u2019est trop dur. \u00bb<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=3396\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu+1<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Signaux qui doivent alerter<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Sans poser de diagnostic, certains signes rep\u00e9r\u00e9s de fa\u00e7on r\u00e9currente dans les t\u00e9moignages peuvent inviter \u00e0 s\u2019interroger :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-863ba52f692f2cfc0dc8ffed52e64637\">Tu as des preuves ou de forts indices, mais tu te r\u00e9p\u00e8tes :<br>\u00ab Il\/elle n\u2019est pas comme \u00e7a \u00bb, \u00ab Je dois me tromper \u00bb, \u00ab Ce n\u2019est pas ce que je crois \u00bb.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=17\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu+1<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-b5ec88811a99e17169cb07d994dd806e\">Tu <strong>r\u00e9\u00e9cris l\u2019histoire<\/strong> : tu effaces r\u00e9trospectivement les alertes (\u00ab Les voyants \u00e9taient au rouge, mais je trouvais \u00e7a normal \u00bb).<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4280\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-a34f7aa75d8e388eaed1faf367f74532\">Tu minimises ta souffrance :<br>\u00ab Je ne vais pas faire exploser la famille pour \u00e7a \u00bb, alors que ton corps et ton moral s\u2019effondrent.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4185\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu+1<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Tu passes ton temps \u00e0 te justifier ou \u00e0 te sentir coupable, alors que c\u2019est l\u2019autre qui a trahi.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Ces signaux ne signifient pas que tout est perdu, mais qu\u2019il est peut-\u00eatre temps de <strong>te faire accompagner<\/strong> pour sortir de l\u2019illusion protectrice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Comment sortir progressivement du d\u00e9ni ?<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Sortir du d\u00e9ni ne se fait pas en un claquement de doigts. C\u2019est un processus. Quelques rep\u00e8res :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Nommer les faits<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c9crire noir sur blanc, pour soi :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>ce qui s\u2019est pass\u00e9 ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>ce que tu sais (faits) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>ce que tu ressens (\u00e9motions) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>ce que \u00e7a change pour toi (valeurs, confiance, choix).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Mettre des mots est une mani\u00e8re de r\u00e9introduire la r\u00e9alit\u00e9, sans jugement imm\u00e9diat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">S\u2019appuyer sur un espace s\u00e9curis\u00e9<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>Parler dans un lieu o\u00f9 tu n\u2019es ni jug\u00e9, ni culpabilis\u00e9 est essentiel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5b3bc1ef87f4bbe10f0c9bfd315febd5\">Un suivi psychologique ou th\u00e9rapeutique permet de travailler sur le d\u00e9ni comme m\u00e9canisme de d\u00e9fense et sur ce qu\u2019il prot\u00e8ge.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wepsee.com\/fr\/wikipsee\/la-decouverte-d-une-infidelite\/\">Wepsee<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-eb71f8be6931f239acae8d033ae2946f\">Le forum SOS Cocu, via la rubrique <em>T\u00e9moignages<\/em>, offre un espace d\u2019entraide o\u00f9 d\u2019autres personnes pass\u00e9es par cette phase de d\u00e9ni peuvent partager leur exp\u00e9rience.<a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewforum.php?f=21\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">SOS cocu<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>L\u2019\u00e9coute du collectif aide souvent \u00e0 se dire : \u00ab Ce que je vis est coh\u00e9rent. Je ne suis pas fou\/folle. \u00bb<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">R\u00e9affirmer tes limites et ta dignit\u00e9<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>Sortir du d\u00e9ni, ce n\u2019est pas forc\u00e9ment d\u00e9cider imm\u00e9diatement de partir ou de rester. C\u2019est d\u2019abord :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>reconna\u00eetre que ce qui s\u2019est pass\u00e9 <strong>est grave<\/strong> pour toi ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>poser des <strong>conditions claires<\/strong> si tu envisages une reconstruction (transparence, fin de la liaison, suivi, etc.) ;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>accepter que tu as le droit d\u2019\u00eatre respect\u00e9\u00b7e.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Accepter la v\u00e9rit\u00e9 \u00e0 ton rythme<\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>Le but n\u2019est pas de te forcer brutalement \u00e0 \u00ab tout voir \u00bb d\u2019un coup, mais de reprendre la main sur la fa\u00e7on dont tu accueilles la r\u00e9alit\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Le d\u00e9ni t\u2019a peut-\u00eatre aid\u00e9 \u00e0 survivre au d\u00e9but. Il est possible maintenant d\u2019apprendre \u00e0 vivre avec la v\u00e9rit\u00e9, sans t\u2019y dissoudre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Pour aller plus loin : quelques t\u00e9moignages du forum sur le d\u00e9ni<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p>Parmi les centaines de fils de la rubrique <em>T\u00e9moignages<\/em>, plusieurs abordent explicitement le d\u00e9ni, soit du c\u00f4t\u00e9 de la personne tromp\u00e9e, soit du partenaire infid\u00e8le. Par exemple :<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0df95b64426b1985011ed1e2156f3ca0\"><strong>\u00ab d\u00e9tresse \u00bb<\/strong> \u2013 un des premiers t\u00e9moignages du forum, o\u00f9 l\u2019auteur d\u00e9crit clairement un \u00ab d\u00e9ni total \u00bb malgr\u00e9 les preuves.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=17\">https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=17<\/a> <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-fd1eda91ffc65d4c47e237ddf43f37f8\"><strong>\u00ab Encore un cocu par son meilleur ami \u00bb<\/strong> \u2013 le narrateur revient sur les voyants \u00ab au rouge \u00bb qu\u2019il a ignor\u00e9s, parlant du d\u00e9ni dans lequel il \u00e9tait.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4280\">https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4280<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-71fd8e2caadc14f45c57bb0b48d804ee\"><strong>\u00ab Je suis en d\u00e9pression \u00bb<\/strong> \u2013 un membre explique comment il a d\u2019abord ni\u00e9 la gravit\u00e9 de ce qu\u2019il vivait, avant de s\u2019effondrer.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4185\">https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4185<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-45a18b8132bae5e8cdec6e4a5314e3ba\"><strong>\u00ab Mon histoire en cours \u00bb<\/strong> \u2013 r\u00e9flexion sur le d\u00e9ni de la part du partenaire infid\u00e8le et les cons\u00e9quences pour le couple.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=2866&amp;utm_source=chatgp.com\">https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=2866<\/a> <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0916dcd7bd0ad36473c2a21fd19c6322\"><strong>\u00ab \u00c7a fait tellement mal \u00bb<\/strong> \u2013 t\u00e9moignage r\u00e9cent \u00e9voquant une courte p\u00e9riode de d\u00e9ni puis une chute brutale.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4666\">https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4666<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-9ea92e460129d7dbeba461b12e79ee3d\"><strong>\u00ab Qu\u2019en pensez-vous \u00bb<\/strong> \u2013 discussion o\u00f9 le d\u00e9ni du partenaire est associ\u00e9 \u00e0 des comportements manipulateurs.<br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4388\">https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/viewtopic.php?t=4388<\/a> <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>Les t\u00e9moignages sont anonymes et n\u2019ont pas valeur de consultation, mais ils permettent de se sentir moins seul et d\u2019identifier des m\u00e9canismes communs, comme le d\u00e9ni.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-90678daf273fac786f40ed3eec3af688\"><strong>Note \u00e9ditoriale<\/strong> : <em>ce texte a b\u00e9n\u00e9fici\u00e9 d\u2019une <a href=\"https:\/\/www.soscocu.org\/blog\/charte-editoriale\/\">relecture assist\u00e9e<\/a> afin d\u2019am\u00e9liorer sa lisibilit\u00e9, sans alt\u00e9rer le sens ni la port\u00e9e des t\u00e9moignages \u00e9voqu\u00e9s. \u00a9 SOS cocu, 2005 \u2013 2026. 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